I’ve been playing the scenes over and over in my head; my last day at the office, my last look at my condo, the last time I drive down certain streets, look out certain windows. In the past few months there have been so many last moments it’s made me more existential than I had anticipated.
More and more I reflect on my life, what I’m doing, what I worry about, how much time I have left, who I’m spending my time with. Thinking of all those moments in the past and how fast they were gone and how fast this moment is moving, can be overwhelming. The only things we really have are our memories. So why should I spend time feeling sad, or angry or focused on anxiety, when at the end of it all my life is a flash in time.
Whether I have; the most social media followers, or the most money, the flattest stomach, or the nicest car, means squat unless I have a reason to celebrate something every day.
We say good-bye everyday to ourselves, to who we were, to the day that passed and we move forward because that’s the only direction we can go. There is nothing in life we can ever really hold on to; our parents die, our children leave, our jobs change, our relationships end, our furniture gets sold. When we try to hold on we create a false sense of control and when we can’t get a hold of it – because it’s not real – anxiety happens.
Loving people without attachment is one of the most challenging and rewarding things we can experience. Most people are under the dissolution that love causes hurt, but it’s not the act of love that causes heartache, it’s letting go of the attachment to an outcome that we pictured in our heads or a physical connection that no longer exists. Those scenarios trigger our ego, and our ego gets hurt the most when it feels alone, but our souls know that we are never alone.
When we choose joy and we choose love in the moment, then the anxiety of what may be lost is further out of our reach. Saying good-bye may be the hardest thing at times, but it’s the one thing that makes us take the necessary steps towards our next moments and our new adventures.
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